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How To Get Laid On A Cruise Ship: Casual Sex At Sea or A Lifelong Romance

A guide to helping singles find romantic partners on a cruise

Cruise ships are nearly the perfect place to find a hookup partner. Simply put, you are sailing to beautiful locations, free flowing alcohol, plenty of activities to bring people together and there's a sort of freedom for singles to push boundaries, try new things and explore new opportunities that they may not feel comfortable doing at home. That of course often leads to the question of how to get laid on a cruise ship?


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Let's face it ... cruises are one of the most popular and most affordable spring break ideas for college kids and so we get asked frequently about how to find young single guys and girls on a cruise for a quick vacation hookup.

The reality is that while the core principles are no different from going out with friends in your home town, there are some tips that we can share on how to find a cruise ship hookup and get laid on a cruise ship. While there is an erotic fantasy about no-strings-attached cruise ship sex at sea, that's more of a fantasy than anything else. It is possible and it does happen but it's not magically more likely because you are on a cruise than partying at a club in Cabo or Mazatlan.

Regardless, thousands of people do have sex every day on cruise ships, so let's take a look at some advice to help you improve the odds!

table of important factors to consider if you are looking to hook up with someone on a cruise:

Getting Laid On A Cruise: Start With The Basics

The subject of how to get laid on a cruise can become overly complicated. The same rules apply here as they do back home, but it is important to take a look at how cruises are organized so you can identify opportunities to put yourself in the right position to find a romantic partner for that vacation hookup.

Age Group and Demographics Choose a cruise that attracts a similar age group and demographics for better chances.
Social Events and Parties Look for cruises that offer plenty of social events, themed parties, and nightlife activities.
Cabin Location Opt for a cabin close to popular venues like bars and clubs for convenience and spontaneity.
Dining Options Select flexible dining options or open seating to meet new people easily and schedule a casual dinner date.
Excursion Choices Participate in group excursions and activities to interact with potential partners.
Bar and Lounge Scene Frequent bars and lounges where singles tend to gather and socialize.
Singles Mixers Attend singles mixers and events specifically designed for solo travelers.
Dress Code and Appearance Dress well and maintain good hygiene to make a positive impression.
Body Language and Approachability Be approachable, friendly, and confident without being too aggressive.
Respect and Consent Always respect boundaries and ensure any interaction is consensual and mutually enjoyable.
Cruise Line Reputation Research the reputation of the cruise line for its social scene and overall vibe.
Communication and Openness Be open to conversations with new people and show genuine interest in others.
Technology and Connectivity Use onboard communication tools and social media to stay connected with new acquaintances.


The table above should help new cruisers understand the basics of dating at sea. Consider those core principles above as well as the following tips to increase the chances of meeting someone new and having a successful hookup on a cruise. 

Picking The Right Cruise

There are two types of cruise ship hookups - planned and those that just happen. If you are specifically booking your cruise to get laid, then make sure you pick the right cruise to help improve your odds of making that happen.

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For instance, you'll need to select the right time of year and correct itinerary that will have a higher percentage of eligable singles that you can hook up with. Also, you'll want to make sure to select the right cruise line that attracts folks who might also be looking for a cruise romance. Otherwise, it is sort of pointless.

Cruise Line Selection Certain cruise lines like Carnival are more suited for younger singles looking to mingle.
Timing and Itineraries Different times of year and itineraries are more likely to have a good number of singles.
Recommended Cruises Carnival or Royal Caribbean cruises from Florida or Los Angeles around spring break.
Alternative Options Cruises from Houston and New Orleans, especially around Mardi Gras, are great for romance.
Cruise Duration Shorter cruises (3-4 days) like Baja Mexico from Los Angeles or Bahama cruises from Miami.
Cost Considerations Shorter cruises are cheaper, allowing extra cash to be spent on drinks.
Avoidance Factor Shorter duration means fewer days to avoid someone if things don't work out.


This table provides a concise overview of key considerations when selecting a cruise for singles looking to meet new people and potentially hook up.

Shorter Cruises Are Better For Finding Romance At Sea

When it comes to getting laid on a cruise or simply just finding romance at sea, shorter cruises are typically the best choice. While I love longer voyages when traveling with my wife, shorter cruises are better if you are on the prowl for a hookup. This works both ways ... it's not just guys who are looking for no-strings-attached hookups!

Be A Baller On A Budget

We don't usually encourage folks to pretend to be someone they aren't. That is a terrible way to start a relationship. However, if you are a guy looking to find girls to hook up with, one way that works well is for guys to be flashy and show their wealth. That is obviously very sexist and won't work to attract every lady. However, a cruise presents an interesting opportunity to make this happen in a unique way.

For instance, by selecting a short cruise, you can choose a suite instead of a balcony room for about the same price as you might otherwise pay on a week-long-cruise.

Similarly, you can splurge on a drink package or buy your date expensive top-shelf drinks and spend money taking her to the steakhouse or buying a fancy gift from one of the jewelry stores onboard.

Shorter Cruises Attract More Singles

The percentage of singles on a shorter 3-4 cruise will be far higher. This is because they are typically cheaper and often have a Friday-Sunday schedule so you can avoid having to take extra vacation days. This percentage of single guys and girls who are looking to party increases around certain times of year such as Mardi Gras, St Patrick's Day, and Cinco De Mayo which are all traditional party holidays.

Shorter Cruises Create Urgency

Let's be honest here, finding a cruise hookup isn't about courtship and romance ... that's a different article. This is about finding a compatible partner and bringing them back to your cabin for some adult fun. As such, both parties that are looking for a cruise ship fling will be actively looking for opportunities to get together from day one. Drinks at the bar, a casual dinner invite to warm her up, and then dancing and partying at the nightclub ... if you can't close the deal quickly in an environment like that then having 6 more days isn't going to help increase the odds.

Plus, if things go south and she says no ... it's not like you have to hang around and see the same folks for the rest of the week. You'll all be going home in a couple days so put everything you got out on the table and make it happen!

Bring A Wingman or Wingwoman With You

Just like back on land, a wingwoman or wingman is a valuable asset on a cruise. However, on a cruise it is a bit different than simply going out to the bar since ideally, hooking up and getting laid isn't your only reason for taking the cruise. 

This person should be a fun traveling companion so that even if things don't work out in the romance department that you will still have a fantastic cruise experience.

Also, since most cruises are priced based on double occupancy, you will want to share the room with someone. 

Just remember to set ground rules ahead of time in terms of signalling that the "room is busy". This goes for guys as well as girls and you will also want to make sure that your friend knows where you are and with whom. Cruise ships are generally very safe but again ... normal dating rules apply here too.


Don't Get (Too) Drunk

Without a doubt, alcohol and finding someone to hook up with often go hand in hand. Luckily there is plenty of alcohol to be found on a cruise ship and depending on your budget it is likely you may have purcahsed a drinks package. However, while we know that alcohol can have certain physical affects on men no matter where they are - at sea, in combination with even gentle rocking of the ship, alcohol can make anyone sicker quicker.

Feeling quesy on a ship is never fun. To help ensure that you are both mentally and physically ready to have fun ... men as well as women limit alcohol intake where possible and avoid over consumption. 

Afterall, who wants to head back to their cabin with a potential romantic partner only to pass out or feel sick once they pass through the door?


Look For Activities That Involve Social Interaction

New cruisers might think that the perfect spot to pick someone up is by strolling through the sun deck or hanging out by the pool. That's actually not the ideal location since nobody wants to be hit on while relaxing in the sun. Also, no matter what ship, time of year, or itinerary, you are going to have a wide range of people onboard and not everyone is going to be dressing or acting in a way that would be considered "exciting".

Instead, look for activities that involve casual social interaction as a first step.

Activities Good For Meeting Single People On A Cruise Ship:

  1. Singles Meetups - look in the daily cruise planner for singles events, this is one sure way to find singles looking to meet up.
  2. Hot Tubs - while pools aren't as popular as you'd think on cruise ships, hot tubs are a perfect place to meet people but you might have to jump around to a few different spots depending on the vibe of your particular ship.
  3. Dance Parties and The Disco—Dance parties and the nightclub or disco are always great places to find women. You can also look for folks interested in dancing at live music venues and karaoke. Just put yourself out on the dance floor and see what happens.
  4. Trivia, Painting, and Other Activities - Any opportunity to meet people and interact will be a good opportunity to find someone and get to know them. Use this time to get to know someone better by inviting someone you met to join you as well as keep your ears open if someone has a suggestion like, "my friend is single, you should meet him".
  5. Bars - duh! Don't just hang out at the bars, though ... look for things like an alcohol tasting, mixology class, or wine class. Again this is part a chance to find someone as well as to invite someone you already met so that you can start to cultivate a relationship.


Pick The Right Shore Excursions

Some shore excursions are better than others for meeting singles with whom you can develop a relationship. 

Shore ExcursionDescription
Catamaran Sailing Charter (Puerton Vallarta) Enjoy a sailing trip with an all-inclusive beach party, perfect for mingling and relaxing.
Bar Hopping Tour Join a guided tour of popular bars, ideal for socializing with young singles.
Ensenada Beer & Tequila Experience Taste local beers and tequilas while meeting new people in a fun, relaxed setting.
Snorkeling Adventure Explore underwater life together, offering a mix of adventure and close interaction.
Wine Tasting Tour (Ensenada or San Francisco) Visit local vineyards, taste various wines, and enjoy intimate conversations in a scenic setting.
Sunset Cruise (Puerto Vallarta) Share a romantic evening on a sunset cruise, complete with dinner and drinks.
Cooking Class Take a local cooking class together, learning new skills and enjoying a delicious meal.
Salsa and Salsa (Mazatlan) Make salsa, drink margaritas, and learn to dance, combining fun, food, and dance lessons.


Make sure to work with your travel advisor for some additional suggestions based on your itinerary as well as talking with the shore excursion desk once on the cruise. Be open and honest with the person and ask for suggestions on what they suggest for meeting single girls and guys. They might even know of other singles who are looking to do an excursion together.


Get Noticed (in a good way!)

Ladies - wear that awesome dress and hit the dance floor or sing your heart out during karaoke night. Guys, show off your skills competing in physuical contests like belly flop or hair man competitions as well as more high-brown opportunities such as competing in a mixology challenge. You could even call into the daily morning show and tell everyone you are from whatever college / town and you are looking to party. 

If nothing else, if you see an attractive person that interests you, buy them a drink as an easy introduction.

The first step to finding that person to get together is about getting noticed.


Guys - Don't Be A Douche Bag!

Guys are notoriously arrogant when it comes to dating and hooking up on cruise ships. Don't be that guy! 

Confidence is important but the rules haven't changed just because you are on a cruise ship instead of the bar or club back home. Getting laid on a cruise ship might introduce an exotic element since you are far from home and chances are that you will never see the person again but don't be a douche bag. 


Ladies - If You Are Interested, This Isn't The Time To Play Hard To Get

Ladies, your cruise vacation is only going to be a few days long. So, if your goal is to find "Mr Right Now" don't play hard to get. If you just simply want to flirt then that is totally fine and nobody should push you further than you are comfortable with. However, if your goal is to get some vacation action then it is important to express your desires and be clear that you are interested should you find someone potentially compatible.

That doesn't mean you have to drag the first guy you see back to your cabin. If you've enjoyed someone's company though, and want a quick vacation fling or even a one-night-stand ... let him (or her) know. Also, make sure to have clear expectations about what you want.

Casual cruise hookups can be fun but if you and your partner have different expectations then that just sucks.


Your Room Is The ONLY Place You Should Have Sex On A Cruise

Well, your room ... or your partner's room anyhow.

As fun as it might sound, please don't try to have sex in the pool or hot tub, that's just gross for other people and public sex in other parts of the ship is just rude. Plus, especially during times like spring break, there are going to be lots of families and you don't want to have some kid stumble upon you guys humping in a clamshell, even if you have a blanket over your bodies.

Additionally, even though your balcony may seem completely private ... it is highly likely that neighbors above, below, or to the side can see part of your balcony and sound travels too. Also, depending on where your cabin is located there might even be IR cameras to help track bodies or debris that might fall into the ocean. Plus, as fun as it might be in your mind to bend someone over the balcony railing, that's just downright dangerous - Don't Do it! 


Don't Hit On Crew!

While there may be many very attractive young men and women from all over the world serving in the bars, restaurants, and other venues ... don't hit on them. Not only are they under strict orders not to date guests, it is also rude and innapropriate to hit on people while and where they work.

Also, do not mistake a friendly smile, wave, or comment as a sign that they are into you. Even if there might exist some level of attraction, following that could result in them recieving discipinary action or getting fired. This is true at bars and restaurants on land and it is especially true at sea.

Fantasies of crew-guest encounters are just that. 

Don't worry though, on a typical cruise there will be thousands of guests for you to socialize with so leave the crew alone.